HELP..my sister-in-law

Hi Femke, your hormones are probably playing tricks on you too, which is why you're starting to notice it more now. But there is indeed some jealousy involved too!

If you get such a reaction just from saying you're pregnant... or when she asks exactly how Max's kid is doing, as if you're just there for Pietsnot and basically just hand over the little one like you're an incubator and do nothing else... well, she probably didn't mean it that way, but that's how it comes across... She likely has a secret desire for a child herself and reacts this way because you're the first one to get pregnant, not her.

I have a cousin in my family who is almost 8 months pregnant. Since we told her at 12 weeks, neither she nor her boyfriend has wished us congratulations... Turns out they've been trying for half a year without success, and now I suddenly show up as the younger cousin who's suddenly pregnant... Well, my cousin won't get a card if she keeps this up; she'll probably hear it from her brother then He was over the moon when he heard the news.

Anyway, girl, I'd say try not to get too worked up and keep enjoying your little one! Talk about it with your husband! Have you maybe already done that? And what does he say?!

Good luck with your pregnancy and enjoy these last few months!
If you need to vent, you can always reach out here! It's good to let off steam when you're frustrated!!!
Love,

Hi Femke, I can totally understand why you're upset! That's not nice at all, obviously!

Definitely try to talk it over with your husband so he knows how you're feeling right now. He might experience it differently than you do, or maybe he thinks the same but doesn't dare to tell you because you don't say anything either.

So your sister-in-law is still single, I understand? That's a bit sad for her, of course, but there's probably a deeper reason behind it, right? And since she's already 27, her biological clock is probably ticking away for her too. That's all fine and good, but it's no reason to react so rudely towards you guys, especially not by just ignoring you when you're there. I hope she'll calm down and realize that you're part of this once your little one is born in February. After all, it's your baby that you conceived together. Even if you had split up with your husband, you'd still always be part of each other's lives; you share something together. But yeah, some people just don't think that deeply.

Well, girl, good luck with talking it over with your husband! And let me know how he reacted!!

Yeah, my cousin also thinks it's rude, but I can't do anything about it. We weren't even trying for kids yet here... I just took my pill on time as usual and never got sick, always got my period, and then suddenly nothing. After some tests, it turned out I was already 10 weeks and 4 days pregnant. It wasn't planned, but it was more than welcome. Maybe that rubs her the wrong way a bit. We got pregnant on the pill, had no trouble, never faced any setbacks, and then she can't conceive right away. I do think it's really sad that she can't be happy for us. I get that it's hard if you really want kids yourself, but surely you can still say congratulations?! Anyway, I haven't heard from or seen her since she knew I was pregnant. Her brother, who is gay, I see almost every week. I just sent him a text, and he came to give me a big hug. Their bond has always been stronger, but still... how can someone react like that?

Lots of love

Hey Olivia, still nothing?

The beauty of being pregnant is that sometimes you can say things under the guise of 'I didn't mean it like that, I was suffering from my hormones.' :-) If she makes such a remark again, act as if your nose is bleeding and say: 'I don't know which child you mean, but with OUR baby, things are going well anyway.'
And why not confront her directly with her hateful behavior. If you indicate that it makes you sad or gives you the feeling of being an outsider, she'd have to be a real bitch not to take you seriously.

Just act like you're deaf as a post!