Baby Names
girl and boy name
HalloweenGuest ·
Hi, quick question.
I'm 8 months pregnant now, and we know it's a boy.
We've decided to raise our child gender-neutral.
We looked into gender-neutral names, but we don't really like them.
What we want is to give our child a clear boy's name and a girl's name, so that later on they can decide which side they want to go.
Our favorite name combination is Margriet-Dylano because it contains letters from both parents of our child.
We want the girl's name first, followed by the boy's name, paired with a hyphen - so that our child has to use both.
Is this legal in the Netherlands and can this be done?
I'm 8 months pregnant now, and we know it's a boy.
We've decided to raise our child gender-neutral.
We looked into gender-neutral names, but we don't really like them.
What we want is to give our child a clear boy's name and a girl's name, so that later on they can decide which side they want to go.
Our favorite name combination is Margriet-Dylano because it contains letters from both parents of our child.
We want the girl's name first, followed by the boy's name, paired with a hyphen - so that our child has to use both.
Is this legal in the Netherlands and can this be done?
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Lou Guest #2
Pff, no idea if that's allowed, I'd call the municipality to ask. Anyway, I don't think Margriet-Dylano is a successful combination and I wouldn't choose it myself. If you really want to raise your child gender-neutrally, I'd go for a unisex name. But what if your son just wants to be a boy? What's he supposed to do with the name Margriet? I think you'd make it pretty hard for him then... It's just my opinion, you have to decide for yourself, but I'd rather go for a name from this list (and then maybe use Margriet Dylano as the second and third name, that's definitely allowed):
Robin Lou Sem Sam Max Jip Daan Noah Quin(n) Charlie Elvis Jaimy River Bo/Beau Pim Alex Anne Kris Billie/Billy Dani Eden Dominique Logan Maxim(e) Indi Jackie Luca Jonne Nikky Merlijn Rowan Sacha Sjors Skye Sydney
- There are plenty of nice names in there in my opinion! -
Debbie Guest #3
Totally agree with Lou. -
Anonymous Guest #4
Sorry, but I already feel sorry for him. The chance that your son will still feel like a man despite gender-neutral upbringing is quite high (just look at the statistics).
He certainly won’t be happy if he’s called Margriet at school, airports, etc.
If he does end up feeling more like a she or neutral, he probably wouldn’t appreciate a name like Dylano either.
I personally don’t think the combination Margriet-Dylano looks nice at all.
I’d choose a unisex name. Then it doesn’t matter whether he identifies as he/she/they. Also, considering vulnerability to bullying.
You could also go for names like:
Novan / Milan / Noah etc. If your son identifies more as a she, you just remove the last letter and the name remains the same otherwise. -
Anouk Guest #5
No, I really wouldn't do that.. I also don't think Margriet and Dylano go well together.
I would go for a unisex name:
Alex, Bo, Charlie, Eden, Esra, Jamie, Jip, Kris, Lou, Luca, Marijn, Maxim, Misha, Nicky, Noa, Quinn, Renée, Riley, Robin, Sam, Sev
Maybe there's something here that suits you both. -
MamaBaaS #6
I absolutely wouldn't call that gender-neutral. Personally, I don't think a gender-neutral upbringing is okay, but yeah, that's your choice of course. When I think of gender-neutral names, I think of:
Sam, Kim, Noa(h), Robin(e), Billie, Guus(je), Rens(ke), Ja(i)mie, Maxim(e).
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