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Preschooler tells us she was touched by another preschooler.
JoGuest ·
Hi,
We have a super sweet, feisty, and outspoken little girl of 4. She just started primary school after the summer holidays and is quite outspoken; according to the teachers, she's a real leader in the class.
She loves to chat away and, like many kids her age, has a big imagination and often tells stories that aren't always true.
Two weeks ago, her behavior suddenly changed. She became very feisty, screaming a lot, and very frustrated. On top of that, she suddenly started urinating extremely frequently and in large amounts. We had her urine tested 3 times, but nothing came up.
The doctor advised keeping her home for a bit. A lot had happened in a short time: a new babysitter, saying goodbye to the toddler group, and us expecting a new baby, followed shortly by her starting big school. The stress was coming out now.
After two weeks at home, she was back to being a bit more like her old self, and her urination returned to normal.
Since this week she's back at school, we notice she's becoming a bit feisty again. She's tired after school, and last week she started urinating more often during the night. This has been normal again in recent days. She also told us she had a sore pee-pee.
But tonight, she suddenly told my husband first, and then me, that a boy in her class had sat on her pee-pee and she didn't like it.
It happened on the toilet. We told her that no one is allowed to touch her like that and that if it happens again, she must go straight to the teacher and tell us everything.
It's tricky though; we were startled, but we also know she often twists things, makes things up, or tells stories differently.
But you'd think she wouldn't make this up, right?
What should we do? I want to talk to the teacher on Monday, but without accusing anyone.
Should we press her on it or not?
We don't want to just let this blow over; it's really serious what she's sharing with us.
What do you think?
We have a super sweet, feisty, and outspoken little girl of 4. She just started primary school after the summer holidays and is quite outspoken; according to the teachers, she's a real leader in the class.
She loves to chat away and, like many kids her age, has a big imagination and often tells stories that aren't always true.
Two weeks ago, her behavior suddenly changed. She became very feisty, screaming a lot, and very frustrated. On top of that, she suddenly started urinating extremely frequently and in large amounts. We had her urine tested 3 times, but nothing came up.
The doctor advised keeping her home for a bit. A lot had happened in a short time: a new babysitter, saying goodbye to the toddler group, and us expecting a new baby, followed shortly by her starting big school. The stress was coming out now.
After two weeks at home, she was back to being a bit more like her old self, and her urination returned to normal.
Since this week she's back at school, we notice she's becoming a bit feisty again. She's tired after school, and last week she started urinating more often during the night. This has been normal again in recent days. She also told us she had a sore pee-pee.
But tonight, she suddenly told my husband first, and then me, that a boy in her class had sat on her pee-pee and she didn't like it.
It happened on the toilet. We told her that no one is allowed to touch her like that and that if it happens again, she must go straight to the teacher and tell us everything.
It's tricky though; we were startled, but we also know she often twists things, makes things up, or tells stories differently.
But you'd think she wouldn't make this up, right?
What should we do? I want to talk to the teacher on Monday, but without accusing anyone.
Should we press her on it or not?
We don't want to just let this blow over; it's really serious what she's sharing with us.
What do you think?
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Orchidea #2
I would indeed make this discussable with the teacher. As far as I know, such a young child wouldn't lie about this, so I would take this very seriously. This could also certainly explain her behavior. -
chantall88 #3
Hi, I’d definitely bring it up with the teacher. It’s probably very innocent behavior from the other kid; stuff like this happens quite often. Curiosity and exploring. It fits the age group really well. Kids do need to know what’s acceptable and what’s not. And a teacher doesn’t always have a clear view of everything. In this way, she can address it in class and make it clear to the children what is and isn’t allowed. I’d also explain your daughter’s behavior, yes. Good luck, stay strong. -
Susanna #4
I find her behavior too coincidental if it has nothing to do with it, so I'd discuss this with the teacher as soon as possible. Suddenly urinating so often, along with a lot of frustration. And when she stayed home, it got better again, but at school she had a relapse. This all sounds pretty suspicious to me.
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