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name crisis!

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sa89Guest ·
Hi everyone,
I'm slightly panicking at 38 weeks pregnant..
Throughout the pregnancy, I had the name Vajèn in mind, but I kept coming back to the association with the female genitalia in Turkish on the script.. then I settled on Vivièn.. I like the meaning, the abbreviation VIEF is super cute and classic.. But now I'm having big doubts about the spelling.... the pronunciation should be: vi vi jun.. what is the correct spelling and is the placement of the accent correct and which accent..
Vivièn
Viviën
Viviënne (and won't people pronounce it enne.. I actually find this classic spelling quite beautiful)

Or should I stick with Vajèn.. you understand I'm slightly panicking, haha..
Ps. Our son is named Déan (dee - an)

Love, a hesitant mother

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  1. Joy #2

    Unless you have a Turkish family or plan to move there, I’d really go with Vajen. I think the name is nicer too.

  2. An2020 #3

    Vivian, pronounced in English...

  3. Joy #4

    Vivian is pronounced as vivjan. Just stress on the Jan part

  4. sa89 started this #5

    Thanks for the replies!
    I thought Déan and Vajèn sounded really nice too.. With Vivian, I also feel like it's similar to Vivijan.. And then the ending sound is Deejan and Vivijan (pronunciation)
    As for sensitivity to teasing, I'm not too worried, kids can come up with anything.. And Dick in English is also... right..
    It was actually that we were already kind of past that point of just going ahead and doing it, until at the baby shower my sister-in-law said across the whole table: "Recently my friends named their child Vajèn and do you know what that means?!?! Like, you wouldn't do that..." There was a lot of negative reaction to the meaning.
    I live in a very small village and think half the table wouldn't have known anything about it otherwise.. But then doubt crept in..

  5. Lou Guest #6

    Vayen is the prettiest with Déan, and also the cutest name. I'd just stick with that. Will she get a second name? Then she can use that one if she ever goes to Turkey or works there. And I don't think Dutch kids will figure out the meaning; you'd really have to Google it. Then Loes Poes/Joep Poep/Ruth Kut is much easier. And I'd choose that one too! It'll work out! Follow your gut!

  6. Anonymous Guest #7

    I think Vivièn, Viviën(ne) is much prettier and more original than Vajen (which is also a pretty trendy name right now). And they fit Dean really well. In my opinion, Dean and Vajen have just as different a sound at the end as Dean and Vivièn, but I find Vajen sounds harsher.

    It's not even about the meaning; it just looks better written that way. The spelling, well... I can't really choose between those.

    I would pronounce it Vie-vie-(jen), maybe with a 'je' at the end in the case of Viviènne. But if you tell your surroundings how you pronounce the name, they'll probably end up saying it that way too.

    I would pronounce Vajen as Va-jen.

  7. Anonymous Guest #8

    For me, Vajèn is number 1, I think it's really such a beautiful name!
    If you're really hesitant about family/friends' reactions to the meaning of the name, you might consider the spelling Fayén. But I think eventually they'll get used to it and won't always think about the meaning, right?
    I personally find Vajèn very beautiful, and also more beautiful than vivién, viën etc..
    But it's of course your choice.
    Good luck with your choice!

  8. Joy #9

    I personally think that if you don't speak the language or don't understand it at all... you shouldn't have an opinion on what a certain word means in another language. That way, you can cross off a lot of names from your list. Besides, if my family did that, I'd really put them in their place. You don't mock. And we don't live in Turkey nor do we have any relocation plans you might consider making it Fajen though. But I think it looks best with the V. Whether a name is trendy or not... I've never really cared about that. I myself also had a popular name and there were two of us with the same name in class... I didn't think that was a problem at all. On the contrary... it actually created an extra bond

  9. Koekblik Guest #10

    I’d go for a different name. But that’s because I don’t find Vajen beautiful (to put it mildly). I think it sounds ordinary, and the meaning in Turkish would put me off.

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