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I feel guilty

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LinaGuest ·
Hi mamas,
I've been feeling really guilty for a while now, but I haven't dared to say it out loud. I have a 2-year-old toddler and a baby on the way. I'm currently on leave and find the days with the oldest home alone really tough. I just dread a new day. He's constantly fighting. Even when I take him somewhere, it's a big drama. When I was still working, I was just happy that I could go to work. But I feel really guilty about that now, because I love him so much and he's very sweet, but also just a typical toddler.
Does anyone relate to this? And will this feeling go away?

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  1. Anonymous Guest #2

    It's not your child, but his behavior that you can't stand. Maybe it's exacerbated by your hormones. Try not to feel guilty, try to find a way through it. How old is he?

  2. Mama vanJ #3

    Unfortunately, this is part of your toddler's age. I'm 2 and I say no! And believe me, it really gets better! Reward your toddler for the good things they do.

  3. Anonymous Guest #4

    Thanks for your replies. He just turned two. It's true that I find his behavior annoying, not him. That already helps me a bit. I can usually put things in perspective, but pregnancy is weighing on me quite heavily, so everything feels like too much lately.

  4. Richella Guest #5

    So relatable! And it's so hard to focus on the positive and reward that when, thanks to the hormones, you only see the negative My little one is almost 4 and sometimes I really have to walk away from him because then I can't stand up for myself anymore, or well, it feels that way. And then that wonderful maternal guilt kicks in.

  5. Anonymous Guest #6

    What my kids are very sensitive to is how I feel.

    If I sing and dance a lot on a day, they catch that. If they listen well, or if I really consciously and clearly tell them what's good and nice about listening, "Mom is proud of you," I see them beam. My kids are 14, almost 13, 4, and over 2.5 years old. It works great at every age!

  6. Lina started this #7

    Thanks for the tips! I really think my mood is having an impact. I'll keep an eye on it. Thanks!

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