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NouckiGuest ·
Hi future moms! I have a serious question! My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 1.5 years. I used to smoke heavily. After seven months of no success, we consulted a specialist in long cycles and difficulty conceiving. I had a cycle of almost 2.5 months! He told us it was practically impossible to conceive naturally. I had an IVF appointment scheduled for September. Due to circumstances, I started smoking more again (the death of a good friend). Last week, I was supposed to have four wisdom teeth removed. The doctors advised me to take a pregnancy test anyway. What was the result? Five weeks pregnant! Now it's already six weeks. But I've been smoking the whole time! I spoke with the specialist and my gynecologist about my smoking, and they advised me to quit gradually to avoid stress. Together, they suggested this: start with 15 cigarettes, then next week (now) reduce to ten, and then to five. But I feel so bad about this. I called them and asked if I could go straight to five. But the answer was no, because you have a high-risk pregnancy, so absolutely no stress! They told me that during the first 15 weeks, I won't harm the baby. But everywhere else I find completely different information. Who should I believe, the gynecologist and professor? Or should I follow my own feelings and go to five cigarettes to quit next week? Any tips?

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  1. kruimel #2

    Trust your gut, absolutely! I’d quit cold turkey, but I also understand if you can’t do it in 1-2 days. How weird that so-called experts say you just “have to” keep smoking.. and I wouldn’t believe a word of what they say about those first 15 weeks either.
    And a high-risk pregnancy and stress, well, I’m not sure about the details, but I do know that continuing to smoke also has consequences.

    Congratulations on your pregnancy and choose wisely!!

    xKruimel

  2. Tooby #3

    You're wondering whether to follow the advice of a learned professor and a learned doctor, or to go your own way?..
    Come on, let's assume they didn't get their diplomas with a pack of butter? Plus, it's the expertise of two different people instead of just one.

    I'd think it's pretty foolish to go your own way, especially when it means going against expert medical advice.

  3. Leetje Guest #4

    It's still hard for Tooby to react in a normal way.

  4. N.L. #5

    Follow your own gut, okay! If you feel like you can stop... why not?! Everything for that little one in your belly, you can't be a better example It'll be fine!

  5. N.L. #6

    Oh and congratulations of course on your pregnancy!!! X

  6. proud_mommy #7

    Congratulations, girl.
    I think you'll stress more over the idea that it might be harmful to the little one.
    You should do what feels best to you. As long as you don't stress.

  7. Noucki started this #8

    Yeah, indeed, it's been completely stopped for four hours now! And it's going pretty well! ????

  8. Tooby #9

    Never mind, Leetje isn't worth it.

    Great job, Noucki! I'd follow professional advice. By the way, my comment wasn't meant to be harsh, I'm sometimes clumsy with my wording.

  9. N.L. #10

    Awesome! And if you suddenly experience a lot of stress, try to stay calm.. see where you can find your calmness:-) distraction on Netflix or maybe something to eat. It’s all in the mind! And think about that little bundle of joy too, she can only be proud later

  10. noucki Guest #11

    Thank you all so much! For all the support xxx

  11. nicoletjuh89 #12

    Do what feels right for you, noucki!
    It seems that the placenta isn't fully ready until 15 weeks, and that's when you truly have a connection where substances reach the baby directly.
    But I'd also feel better if you stopped now!

    Enjoy your little miracle in your belly, girl!
    Congratulations!

  12. Moedertjuh #13

    If you're experiencing more stress from continuing to smoke, you can quit faster. For you, more peace and quiet, and thus better. They give you a guideline for the schedule, but you feel what you can handle. Where you feel comfortable. Ideally, it's best to stop smoking before you get pregnant. Precisely for this reason. I understand it's difficult, of course...but it's difficult now too. You're going for it anyway, and I'm sure it'll work out for you!

  13. Dior #14

    Hypnotherapy apparently works well to quit smoking quickly, I've heard! Maybe not the solution, but it does give you a boost. And hey, I've been told that smoking just a few cigarettes is still better than all the stress! And we all grew up fine anyway!

  14. Joyce2018 #15

    Good morning, I read this post and I'm curious if you managed to quit smoking.
    I want to share what I was told and how it went for me.
    During my first pregnancy, I was told that if quitting smoking caused too much stress, they'd rather I smoked a few cigarettes a day. My daughter had a birth weight of 3880 grams at 37.5 weeks and was healthy.
    With my second child, I tried to quit again but didn't succeed. I tried to smoke as little as possible, and she had a birth weight of 2860 grams at 36.5 weeks and was also healthy (born early due to breech position). It's best to quit smoking completely, but if you really can't stop, try to minimize it. Stress from feeling forced to quit is also not good for the baby.

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