Passed away at 17 weeks

Dear mama,
That's absolutely terrible, what a sorrow. I don't have any tips, I don't know enough about it.
I was cured last summer at about 15 weeks. Not comparable of course, but I know what pain it is to lose a baby.
I wish you all the strength!!!

Love!

That's absolutely terrible to hear, girl. Really, so very sad. I want to wish you both so much strength

I haven't had a stillbirth, but I had a disabled child, so we chose to terminate the pregnancy at 18 weeks.
Until 24 weeks, the baby is not viable, so you're not required to register the baby with the municipality, but you CAN!
You're allowed to bury your baby in the garden if you'd like, but if you want a proper cemetery, I'm not sure if that's possible, but I think it probably is.
You can also choose to have your baby cremated (which is what we did), and then you can keep them at home in an urn or scatter the ashes!

If you have more questions, I'd be happy to answer them if I can.
Once again, so much strength, and take your time after giving birth to say goodbye to your little one because it really is a tiny human being, and by saying goodbye, you'll be able to process it better and give them a place in your heart

That's nice that you can bury her, dear.

I find it nice to help other women, so I'm happy to give answers
I've never carried a baby to term, so I can't compare it to that, but I can tell you how long it took etc.

From the moment I got the first medication to induce labor until the birth, it took 16 hours! I had very intense contractions, which is why I got morphine, but after that it didn't work anymore, so I got an epidural. After the epidural, it took another 2 hours for labor to get going. Then they broke my waters, and within 20 minutes of pushing, the little girl came out. I only felt something fall out, because I was completely numb from the epidural. So no more pain.
When she was born, we waited until the placenta came out, and it came after a few minutes. Then they cut the umbilical cord and give you the baby. You can hold the baby as long as you want, but keep in mind that the baby turns very purple quickly because it's no longer alive We gave her away after a small hour and they put her in the cooler. After that, I had to go to the OR, because a piece of placenta had remained behind, so they had to remove it surgically.
The next day I held the little one again and I have to say that she was pink/red again because her skin had become lighter due to the cold of the cooler.
They keep the little one in the cooler until you take her home. Hope this helps you a bit. I really wish you a lot of strength, it's no small thing. Try to find support in each other and enjoy the moments when you have the little one in your arms. And taking photos is a good tip, I still look at her photos every day.

I don't know how it goes when it's born so early, but I gave birth at 31 weeks to my first who passed away immediately after birth. That labor lasted from the first contractions to the birth about 8 hours. I hardly had any pain because I only had half contractions, and in the end it became a C-section. They still had hope of saving him. It was only with my second, who came into the world healthy and well, that I found out what real contractions were. I had my son with me in the hospital room for the 3 days I was there, with cold packs that were regularly changed. They had placed him in a very nice wicker basket (cold packs wrapped in a hydrophilic diaper at the bottom) which I covered with his swaddle. So he lay continuously on my bed next to me for the first 2 days and on the table in the corner on the last day. I did this to force myself to say goodbye. After that, he went home with me, where I only handed him over to the funeral director the day before the cremation. I must say that my son remained beautiful until the last day. I held him often those days. Took lots of photos, washed him together with the nurse on the first day. Dressed him myself. They made prints of his hands and feet with washable ink so we had something tangible to hold. They wanted to cut a lock of hair, but it wasn't long enough yet. And in the hospital, they also had a photographer for situations like this from http://www.makeamemory.nl. That was also very nice. I can only say that the support in the hospital was very warm and understanding. They really focused on what worked for me. Lots of strength in this sad period. I hope that you and your family receive the support you need to get through this.

Talk a lot and don't blame yourself. There's nothing you can do about it. With my son, his lungs weren't developed properly, they just couldn't see how severe the damage would be. I try to find peace with the thought that at least he isn't suffering from severe breathlessness now. Of course, I would have much preferred to have him alive with me.
You also can't do anything about having caught fifth disease. So you don't need to say sorry, I just miss you. You'll always carry it in your heart. The pain of the loss will fade over time, the longing is permanent.