Baby wish
Partner not ready for kids yet
Bobbyv
Hi ladies,
I'm a young woman of 26 years old and I've been in a relationship with the nicest and sweetest guy for almost 2 years now.
We have a super nice house together... and then it starts to tickle.
I think this has always been my biggest dream... to become a mom.
And now that all the possibilities are there, I can't stop thinking about how it will be when I'm pregnant and how I'll be as a mom.
But my boyfriend isn't ready for it yet... and he can't tell me how long it will take before he is. Maybe in half a year, maybe in 3 years.
When I think about 3 years, I get really sad, but I can't force him.
And I don't want to either; I really want him to see what I see and think how I think and get butterflies too... but unfortunately, he doesn't feel anything for it yet.
Do you have experience with this? How did it turn out? How do you give it a place and wait calmly?
Love, Bobbyv
I'm a young woman of 26 years old and I've been in a relationship with the nicest and sweetest guy for almost 2 years now.
We have a super nice house together... and then it starts to tickle.
I think this has always been my biggest dream... to become a mom.
And now that all the possibilities are there, I can't stop thinking about how it will be when I'm pregnant and how I'll be as a mom.
But my boyfriend isn't ready for it yet... and he can't tell me how long it will take before he is. Maybe in half a year, maybe in 3 years.
When I think about 3 years, I get really sad, but I can't force him.
And I don't want to either; I really want him to see what I see and think how I think and get butterflies too... but unfortunately, he doesn't feel anything for it yet.
Do you have experience with this? How did it turn out? How do you give it a place and wait calmly?
Love, Bobbyv
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Anonymous Guest #2
So relatable. I've been waiting for 5 years
Luckily, the wait is almost over for me too. We're finally starting in June 
I don't have any tips to make it more bearable because I don't think there are any. I just endured it for 5 years.
What I can share is that you shouldn't bring up the topic of kids too often. My partner really went the other way the more I kept pushing. Eventually, I stopped bringing it up so much, and he brought it up himself about half a year ago
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Rob Guest #3
Hi Bobby,
Definitely don't push it! For me (and a lot of other guys), that desire comes a bit later. Three years ago, I couldn't even think about it. Now I'm so happy with our little girl. I even made a blog about it: papa-avonturen.nl. It's quite possible that there is a desire, but he just doesn't show it yet. Just be patient, it'll all work out fine
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