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Abortion???
Onzekere mama
Hi everyone,
Here’s the mom of 2 girls (2 and 3 years old). They are exactly 9 months apart due to the premature birth of the second one (30+2).
After my partner had a vasectomy, I got pregnant anyway. After holding a positive test in my hands, I was secretly happy!
Had to tell my partner over the phone; he’s always away for work for 6 weeks and home for 6 weeks. He was really shocked! Due to the conscious choice for sterilization. I immediately told him that this was a gift!
But my partner has strong arguments to terminate the pregnancy. Like: we’re already complete with two kids and a dog. It doesn’t fit in the car, financially, hard to arrange babysitting for an overnight trip, my pelvic instability, and fear of PND (which I got after the second due to prematurity).
Yes, indeed, in many things he said, I can really agree with him. But where two can eat, the third doesn’t matter. Maybe later with studies. And my pelvis is already giving me more trouble, and I’m only 4 weeks pregnant. Also, I’ll be alone for 6 weeks and it’s already tough enough! I work just one day for distraction.
But I’ve always said no to abortion. Yes, it will fit now and measure with a third. But we’re not the only ones, right?
If we carry the pregnancy to term, I’m afraid of big consequences due to my pelvis.
If we terminate the pregnancy, I’m really afraid of regret.
Anyone who can help?
Here’s the mom of 2 girls (2 and 3 years old). They are exactly 9 months apart due to the premature birth of the second one (30+2).
After my partner had a vasectomy, I got pregnant anyway. After holding a positive test in my hands, I was secretly happy!
Had to tell my partner over the phone; he’s always away for work for 6 weeks and home for 6 weeks. He was really shocked! Due to the conscious choice for sterilization. I immediately told him that this was a gift!
But my partner has strong arguments to terminate the pregnancy. Like: we’re already complete with two kids and a dog. It doesn’t fit in the car, financially, hard to arrange babysitting for an overnight trip, my pelvic instability, and fear of PND (which I got after the second due to prematurity).
Yes, indeed, in many things he said, I can really agree with him. But where two can eat, the third doesn’t matter. Maybe later with studies. And my pelvis is already giving me more trouble, and I’m only 4 weeks pregnant. Also, I’ll be alone for 6 weeks and it’s already tough enough! I work just one day for distraction.
But I’ve always said no to abortion. Yes, it will fit now and measure with a third. But we’re not the only ones, right?
If we carry the pregnancy to term, I’m afraid of big consequences due to my pelvis.
If we terminate the pregnancy, I’m really afraid of regret.
Anyone who can help?
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Hartje #2
Honey, you're the one who has to do it—you're the one carrying the pregnancy and welcoming your third child, whether son or daughter. Our advice would be yes or no to abortion, but we don't feel anything about it! And we don't know your situation like you do. You'll hear both sides when it comes to regret. But if you're already so unsure now...
What I always wonder is, the life of your two beautiful girls started just as much as the life of your baby now in your belly... What makes the difference? -
Moedertjuh #3
Yeah, it'll probably be a bit intense at first, but with 3 kids it's not really that overwhelming, you know. I have 2 and my partner has 1, and that fits just fine in the car. I'm pregnant now, so soon we'll have 4 kids. But we don't always have our kids, of course. Still, I think it'll all work out in the end, and you'll probably regret having an abortion anyway. Ultimately, you have to stand by your decision... whatever it is. Good luck!
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