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Deadly scared.
Yeani
Hi ladies!
I'm about 6 weeks pregnant.
My partner, whom I've been with for 7 years now, and I were in shock but also very happy.
My partner just turned 31.
When he was 27, almost 28, he got testicular cancer.
One testicle was removed and he had 9 weeks of chemotherapy afterwards.
Now, about two years after the chemo, I've actually gotten pregnant naturally.
A little miracle, as we like to see it, and more than welcome!
But panic is setting in a bit. Two months ago, my boyfriend was told that even though he was declared completely cured and clean after the chemo three years ago, he should be aware of an increased risk of heart or vascular problems.
Further research is being done on that.
When I check the websites (yes, not so slim... but I went googling) it says that no children should be conceived for 6 months after a chemo treatment.
Well, you'd think you're far out of the danger zone, but with all this, it's still playing in the background.
Are there any ladies who also have (had) a partner who conceived children after chemotherapy?
I'd love to hear all reactions.
Best,
A very uncertain future mom.
I'm about 6 weeks pregnant.
My partner, whom I've been with for 7 years now, and I were in shock but also very happy.
My partner just turned 31.
When he was 27, almost 28, he got testicular cancer.
One testicle was removed and he had 9 weeks of chemotherapy afterwards.
Now, about two years after the chemo, I've actually gotten pregnant naturally.
A little miracle, as we like to see it, and more than welcome!
But panic is setting in a bit. Two months ago, my boyfriend was told that even though he was declared completely cured and clean after the chemo three years ago, he should be aware of an increased risk of heart or vascular problems.
Further research is being done on that.
When I check the websites (yes, not so slim... but I went googling) it says that no children should be conceived for 6 months after a chemo treatment.
Well, you'd think you're far out of the danger zone, but with all this, it's still playing in the background.
Are there any ladies who also have (had) a partner who conceived children after chemotherapy?
I'd love to hear all reactions.
Best,
A very uncertain future mom.
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Jootje #2
Oh my. No, no experience.
Maybe you can talk to your GP about your fears? Maybe they can reassure you?
Strength. -
Yeani started this #3
Thank you!
Yes, I’ll definitely look into it more. -
Anne #4
Hi anoniempje,
Your story sounds so much like mine. After our first date, my now-husband called to tell me he had testicular cancer. He also had surgery and one testicle was removed. Later, it turned out he had metastases, so he received five different types of chemotherapy over a period of six months.
Now, nine years later, I’m almost 18 weeks pregnant with our first child.
We were also told that the monitoring is to keep an eye on the effects of the chemo (heart and blood vessels, but with the chemo my husband had, his lungs too).
At first, we both found the monitoring very stressful. We were worried about the consequences of the chemo and whether the cancer might have returned. But we consciously chose to turn the page, which sounds much easier than it actually is. You can start worrying about what if... but there's nothing you can do except live a healthy lifestyle.
If the cancer returns, or if there are consequences from the chemo, you'll have to deal with it at that moment. Don't let your happiness be ruined by doomsday scenarios.
And maybe it gives some hope: nearly 10 years later, everything is still completely fine with my husband. He hasn't even had a cold.
Hopefully, this message supports you a little bit!
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