Biechthoekje
What now??
I just want to share my story here... without hoping to get any criticism!
I'm married, "happy" yes!!! We had a rough patch, I didn't get any attention anymore, the passion was gone, etc... During that time, I ran into my very first boyfriend from high school and the click was instant! After weeks of texting, etc., we met up once, then again, and again... well, what happened shouldn't have happened!!!
I'm sooo angry at myself!!!
But now the rules are out of the window and what do you know, today I have a positive test in my hands!
I wanted to cut off all contact and work on our relationship again!
I really didn't expect this since I'm on the pill...
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MamaN #2
Oh my goodness, difficult situation.
Is there no possibility that the baby could actually be your husband's? Or do you pretty much know for sure that it's the other guy's? -
Gast Guest #3
Yeah, it could be your husband's or did you no longer have contact? -
Anonymous Guest #4
Almost certain it's not from my husband, he's shaved... -
... #5
Tough situation, really. Although, the question "do you want to keep it or not, everything depends on that"
First, figure out what you really want...
Wishing you lots of strength... -
Anonymous Guest #6
My hair was cut short because we already have 4 kids...
And to save my relationship, I think I should just get rid of it!
It feels so hard because I'm completely against it!
Also, I was kinda dumb, I guess... for telling the dad! He wants to go all the way with it!
I'm overthinking like crazy... -
Puck #7
I’d talk it over with your husband first. -
Anonymous Guest #8
Oh yeah sure... and my relationship is falling apart!
Yeah I know I should have thought it through better! It’s happened!
I feel so DUMB DUMB DUMB! -
Puck #9
What is your relationship worth if you're not honest and have sex with someone else? Of course, it was stupid, but now you're also passing your husband and discussing it with your lover first. Only shit will come out of this! And you're being very late with being honest, but this will come out anyway. Now you still have the chance to confess it yourself.
Honesty lasts the longest.... -
... #10
You know your man better than anyone
Do you really want to continue with him? Do you want to grow old with him? How does he react when you tell him you're pregnant with someone else?
Or do you have feelings for that other guy and want to go for him. Don't make it too hard for yourself. Cut the knot and choose.
You can't have both. You made a mistake. You can't undo that. Now it's time to think about how or what. -
MamaN #11
You're right, you should figure out where your heart lies, especially with whom. Since you've already talked to the other guy about keeping the baby, I think you should also let your husband know... Of course, there's a chance he might not want to continue with you. He has that right too. It's not fair to either man; one has no say in the child growing inside you, and the other knows nothing about it. Of course, the person involved should have known better that you're married, but you made a mistake there. I really think you need to be honest; that's just how it is. -
cynthia #12
Wow, what a story. I thought I was watching a program behind closed doors.
But anyway, you took a step out of your marriage.. you didn't get any more attention, you tried, right? Did you talk to your husband about it? About not liking the lack of attention?
You met someone, wow, you got attention and that attention craves for more, and I can totally understand that you crave for it because you haven't felt that in a long time. It felt good, nice, and familiar. (Condom)
But intense story, do you have feelings for the new "dad"? How does he feel about it? Do you still love your current man enough? Are you happy in your relationship now? Good to think about. But talk about this well with a friend/doctor/husband/old flame.
Talking is the most important thing in a relationship, and staying in love is hard, but you have to keep winning each other over. If the love for your man is really over and you're in love with the new "dad", then follow your heart. But if you still love each other enough, then follow your head.
Good luck ???? -
Anoniem Guest #13
I believe you should respect your family. I think you need to let your husband know. What's the worst that could happen? Maybe you should figure that out for yourself. After all, you didn't just leave for no reason...? You made a mistake, but you have to move on. So hopefully, you know what you want. You'll need to be honest. That's the start.
Wishing you all the best! -
cynthia #14
How are you doing now? Where did your choice stand out?
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