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Surrogate mother
TradamGuest ·
Hi,
A friend of mine knows two guys who are gay. They really want a child. Now she has asked if I would like to be their surrogate mother. My husband agrees, as long as it’s clear that the baby is ours, so not one of them being the father. Which the couple is fine with.
But I’m not sure if I can do it. I already have two beautiful sons. I really wish them a child, but it feels quite difficult for me.
So I’ve made a list of pros and cons.
Pros:
I don’t know the men
I’ll make them happy
I’d always like to be pregnant again
Cons:
Nine months carrying the baby and then giving it away
Will I ever see him/her again?
I don’t know exactly where the baby will end up (but that can easily be resolved)
What if the baby isn’t healthy or something?
What would you do?
A friend of mine knows two guys who are gay. They really want a child. Now she has asked if I would like to be their surrogate mother. My husband agrees, as long as it’s clear that the baby is ours, so not one of them being the father. Which the couple is fine with.
But I’m not sure if I can do it. I already have two beautiful sons. I really wish them a child, but it feels quite difficult for me.
So I’ve made a list of pros and cons.
Pros:
I don’t know the men
I’ll make them happy
I’d always like to be pregnant again
Cons:
Nine months carrying the baby and then giving it away
Will I ever see him/her again?
I don’t know exactly where the baby will end up (but that can easily be resolved)
What if the baby isn’t healthy or something?
What would you do?
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irene #2
I’d have a conversation with these guys. It’s not something you just do. If you want to go ahead, make sure you have clear agreements with them. Maybe you can also find someone who’s already done it. Your doctor might be able to help with this too. It’s your body, so don’t make any hasty decisions. Good for you if you do it, and lots of strength. -
Tradam Guest #3
@irene
I also find it quite difficult. And yes, I definitely want to have a conversation.
And for those who might misunderstand this: I have absolutely nothing against gay people!! But I still find it strange that my child would be raised by two men. Wouldn't he miss having a mother figure in his life?... Because I don't see myself becoming the mother in that child's life... but I'd be open to seeing him/her once every two months, maybe just grabbing a coffee or something. -
irene #4
How are you doing? Got any wiser yet? -
Knuffel #5
Wow, that's a heavy decision, Tradam..
I wouldn't be able to do it myself, so I have so much respect for you..
Do you think you can handle giving up your baby after 9 months?
And maybe it's a weird thought, but you already have 2 boys.. What if it's a girl.. Don't you think you'd really want to keep that girl yourself? -
irene #6
Tradam, do you know anything more? I'm curious if you've decided to go ahead with it or not?
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