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How do you deal with friends who do get pregnant?

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Zaraida
Hi,

I’ll introduce myself quickly: I’m 36, and my partner and I have been trying to get pregnant for the first time for about a year and a half. I’ve had several medical procedures/surgeries. The last one was last January; the result was positive, and we could start from scratch again. So that’s another year ahead. I thought I had prepared myself for that. But last week I got my period, two days late. Since then, I just can’t stop feeling sad.

Then, last week, I found out that a good friend of mine is pregnant. She had a hard time telling me because she was afraid of my reaction. At first, I was super happy for her and felt no jealousy or sadness at all. But now, a few days later, I feel so sad and don’t know what to do with myself. She’s already the fifth friend who has gotten pregnant within two months. Right now, I can’t handle my feelings and don’t want anyone around me.

I’m having a hard time talking about it, and I’m curious if there are other girls going through the same thing..

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  1. Nina #2

    I understand you're having a really tough time. It sounds really heavy when I read it.
    How are things between you and your partner? I find it pretty hard to be genuinely happy for someone else when you want that for yourself so much.
    Hopefully, you can share your feelings a bit on this forum and find some recognition, which helps me a lot. I try not to get too lost in it because then I just end up driving myself crazy. But don't be too hard on yourself, let those tears flow freely.

  2. Nijn Guest #3

    Hi Zaraida,
    What a heavy story.
    From your message, I read a lot of strength. I think it's amazing that you're so loving towards your friends, wanting them to experience pregnancy. Give yourself a compliment for that!
    Your sadness is justified and very important to express and share. Let it out and remember that you're a strong and loving woman.
    No, you don't want to go through this, but yes, you will get through it.
    Wishing you lots of strength and love. You're awesome!

  3. Nina #4

    @nijn, that's so beautifully said!!

  4. Zaraida started this #5

    What such sweet words, this really helps! I'm curious if there are more women with this 'problem' and how they deal with it...

  5. sunshine #6

    Hey girl! It really is tough! I myself got pregnant after almost 2 years, but I also had a really hard time with situations like that!

    There's also an MMM part 4 group on this forum There are more girls in your situation there who have been trying for a long time! Maybe you can share more there

  6. Skay #7

    Hey, that feeling is so relatable!
    I also have several friends who are pregnant or already have kids.
    Thankfully, I get a lot of support from my husband and we can talk about it well together!
    Sometimes I also have days where I don't want anyone around me and just want to cry..
    So I just do that, nice and easy!
    With friends, I often keep up a bit of a 'façade'. I try not to show too much disappointment on my part because I don't want to spoil their happiness. And mainly keep thinking.. my baby will come eventually

    Hang in there! And don't forget, we all have those tough moments x

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