Pregnant??

@ Anoniiempjeee,
Hi, is everything okay? It's lovely that you're with someone where you feel completely at home. My oldest sister was also 16 when she got pregnant and had a partner, so I know how people around you can react.
Some are very nice, others very negative. But together you're strong. I think your parents will be shocked, but if you've already changed so much and you have a partner by your side, your parents might actually be very happy for you.

Having an abortion is hopefully not an option, despite your young age. I know behavioral problems well; I have one running around who is almost 12, and sometimes I can just stick him to the wallpaper. I also think that because he sees his support and rock changing like this, he's having a hard time.

But apart from that, it's pretty tough with him... But luckily he's listening to my partner a bit better now, though I hope that will change again later.
Because I'm coaching my son myself, it's intended that he'll start listening again.

Kind regards, Ju

Hey, what a coincidence! I feel like I'm reading my own story. Anyway, when you think you might be pregnant, you can start feeling all the usual symptoms, like nausea and cramps... I'm almost 14 weeks pregnant myself now and haven't had any issues since week 11. So it could be over, but it can change again, so don't worry too much about how people react. What matters is that you're happy! And that doesn't depend on whether you have a baby or not... I'm with my boyfriend and we're very happy together, and lots of friends and family support us! Luckily, we've received very few negative reactions. Good luck! X Davina

Hi anon,

It's great that your boyfriend supports you! It seems pretty tough to have a kid at such a young age. I'm almost twice as old as you and sometimes wonder if it'll all work out. In my eyes, you're still a kid, and I fear you'll have to grow up very quickly if you really end up pregnant. But please don't do anything against your will. Don't keep the baby just because your boyfriend wants it, but don't abort it just because others want you to.

Think carefully about what you want. Keep in mind that your feelings might change from what you thought beforehand. Also keep in mind that people who say they'll support you might not actually do so when it comes down to it. This means you should be sure of your decision and maybe even assume you'll have to raise the child on your own. Which I certainly don't hope for!

So, it might sound quite negative, but that's not my intention. I just want you to make your own choice in this situation and not let it be influenced by others. You'll have to live with the consequences while others can more easily walk away.

That doesn't mean I'm not really happy for you if you turn out to be pregnant and really want the baby!

Oh, I'm so happy to hear that you'd still go for it if you turn out to be pregnant!!
I know 3 women in different situations who did it and never got over the guilt, I find that really sad..

You won't have any reason to regret it if you'd have your baby in your arms!!
And yes, I really admire "Hartje", people should take that as an example!
It's amazing that your partner supports you, you'll need that if it turns out that way..
And regarding your behavioral issues (kudos for sharing that with us), it could actually be a help to prove that you've moved past it and become more mature!

I think it's a very brave decision!!