Babbles
Can't enjoy it with my mom's baby wish
Sas
Hi everyone,
I just wanted to share my story. I’ve had a special relationship with my mom my whole life. She raised me on her own, with the occasional boyfriend or girlfriend. She often didn’t know how to handle me, especially during my teenage years. I’ve mostly grown past that. There’s still a lot of old hurt, especially because she drank a lot and kicked me out a few times.
Now, our relationship is fairly better.
But what I’m most struggling with is that she claims to be psychic. That’s not bad in itself, but she’s almost always right about colleagues. Whether they’re pregnant and whether it’s a boy or a girl. And even if they’ve had a miscarriage.
But here’s the thing; my mom has often assured me that I can’t have children. First, it was when I was still with my ex-husband. She said it was his fault and that if I got with someone else, it would work out. (I was still married to him then.) But as I got further into my relationship with my current boyfriend, she first predicted we’d break up, then that I couldn’t have children. My mind doesn’t believe her, especially since once, while drunk, she said I should have a baby and come live with her alone “because she also raised a child on her own,” but my heart now believes that I definitely can’t have children. Especially because the desire is so big that I wouldn’t know what to do if it didn’t work out.
I have good contact with her, but I don’t dare to say that I’m going to stop taking the pill, out of fear that she’ll keep insisting that I can’t have children.
Thank you for listening anyway
Xx
Sas
I just wanted to share my story. I’ve had a special relationship with my mom my whole life. She raised me on her own, with the occasional boyfriend or girlfriend. She often didn’t know how to handle me, especially during my teenage years. I’ve mostly grown past that. There’s still a lot of old hurt, especially because she drank a lot and kicked me out a few times.
Now, our relationship is fairly better.
But what I’m most struggling with is that she claims to be psychic. That’s not bad in itself, but she’s almost always right about colleagues. Whether they’re pregnant and whether it’s a boy or a girl. And even if they’ve had a miscarriage.
But here’s the thing; my mom has often assured me that I can’t have children. First, it was when I was still with my ex-husband. She said it was his fault and that if I got with someone else, it would work out. (I was still married to him then.) But as I got further into my relationship with my current boyfriend, she first predicted we’d break up, then that I couldn’t have children. My mind doesn’t believe her, especially since once, while drunk, she said I should have a baby and come live with her alone “because she also raised a child on her own,” but my heart now believes that I definitely can’t have children. Especially because the desire is so big that I wouldn’t know what to do if it didn’t work out.
I have good contact with her, but I don’t dare to say that I’m going to stop taking the pill, out of fear that she’ll keep insisting that I can’t have children.
Thank you for listening anyway
Xx
Sas
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Anonymous Guest #2
What awful predictions your mother is making. Even if they were true, she'd better keep them to herself. That just makes you super insecure, especially when it's about something you really want. I'd just follow your heart and stop the pill when you're ready. If you have to believe your mother, you'd be swallowing that for nothing anyway. If it takes a long time to get pregnant, I'd go to your GP. There are also options to get pregnant if it doesn't happen naturally. But that depends on the cause, which needs to be investigated first. But those are things for later. Just try believing that your mother might be wrong too. -
Sas started this #3
Thank you for your response
I'm going to stop taking the pill anyway, but I just feel it's a shame that I won't get that 'preview' experience. You know, chatting about wanting kids, getting advice from her.
Time will tell, and as you said, there's a lot you can do these days -
Anonymous Guest #4
Glad I could help you, unfortunately we can't offer a solution for everything. I'm afraid you'll have to share the excitement with your partner and friends, and who knows, maybe your mom will come over again. Good luck anyway!
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