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Oh my, that’s intense! How strange that he didn’t help out with the baby room! And it’s really frustrating that he’s not reachable. You’re already 36 weeks pregnant!
I want to give you a big hug! That’s really tough!
Try talking to him again and see if you can come to a solution.
Otherwise, I’d seriously reconsider your relationship if you can’t rely on him!

Good luck!

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  1. love #2

    It's half past eleven now and still no sign of where he is. I just don't get it. This is really hurting so much. My stomach is very restless. I'd rather lock the door now and let him sleep outside.
    Thanks for your reply, anonymous..

  2. love #3

    So the guy came home around twelve. Without any explanation or anything, he wanted to go straight to bed. I tried to talk to him calmly, but you can't reason with him. He hit me. While I'm heavily pregnant with his child. He called my sister a whore, even though she's done so much for us. By the way, I found all sorts of weird videos on his phone of half-naked women dancing.
    It's pretty clear how things stand. I kicked him out. I feel so stupid now... I've been living with this for eleven years... And now there's a child involved.

  3. * #4

    Wow, it's been going on for so long, and it's awful that he hit you. All those emotions...
    Hopefully, you and your sister can come up with a solution for how the kids' room comes to you...
    Love, and do file a report, at least it'll be registered...

  4. MamaN #5

    Oh my, what a really frustrating story, girl

    Hitting is never okay! Could it be that he's stressed about the baby's arrival and dealing with it in this (unfortunately weird) way? And the videos, yeah.. Do you think he made them himself, or are they just from the internet or something?

    I'm never in favor of divorce, reports, and all that, but you know best what your boundaries are and how far he's gone. Stand up for yourself and do what your gut tells you. Lots of strength

  5. Nannie ❤ #6

    Oh my goodness, girl. My advice: seek support from your own family and leave him. Do it as soon as possible so you can find peace and give birth in calm. Wishing you lots of strength!

  6. Anonymous Guest #7

    You must never, absolutely never accept being hit. There are no excuses for that. Whether you press charges is up to you; I would definitely have done so. I think your husband needs help and therapy, but that's not your responsibility. He needs to sort that out himself. Right now, you have something more important on your mind: your baby. Make sure you get the support and help from your family and friends, and let him stew in his own juices for now. His behavior is unacceptable, and in my opinion, he first needs to prove that he deserves your love and attention if things are ever going to work out. For now, focus on creating a safe and stable environment for your baby.

  7. Welpje #8

    Oh, that's so awful. As a heavily pregnant woman, you're at your most vulnerable. It's absolutely despicable that he hit you!
    Wishing you lots of strength. Stand tall and stay strong. Make wise choices, especially with your baby in mind. Wishing you lots of strength.

  8. love #9

    Thank you for your kind words. I’ve blocked him again. He wanted to come back and came with all sorts of excuses. But I don’t want my child to grow up with this.
    I’m currently preparing everything for my child. I’m taking it easy, but I’m getting there.

  9. Vivian #10

    Brave choice, Love. Wishing you lots of strength!

  10. karenxxx #11

    Good choice made. A friend of mine went through the same thing as you; it turned out her husband had been seeing someone else for months. It was a tough time for her, and I had to support her strongly. The advice I can give is to leave him alone. Hitting him is cowardly anyway. You'll get through this, girl. Talk a lot with your friends or family to help process everything.

  11. Faile #12

    What a nasty story, seriously. I absolutely don't approve of what your husband did, especially not hitting, but every story has two sides. Listen to what he has to say and don't make such drastic decisions when you're still hormonal. I don't mean this in a dismissive way, but when you're pregnant, things feel much more intense.. splitting up might be a step you'll regret.. Take a break, get someone involved who can help with the baby's room and other chores and talk things over. Arrange for someone you can call when things get tough and who you trust. I hope you two can work it out together.

    Strength

  12. anoniem22 #13

    @anoniem above .. he hit her while she's still heavily pregnant, I don't know...? No drastic decision due to hormones, sorry, but what you're saying now I really can't believe. She acted very correctly.

  13. Joyce2018 #14

    She definitely did the right thing. If someone hits you while you're heavily pregnant, you don't let them back in! One slap means more slaps.

  14. Anoniem pje Guest #15

    Wow! What a jerk! And I thought I had it rough. Geez, that's awful. Lots of strength, girl!

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