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What to do if someone isn't happy about your pregnancy?

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sillypilly
Jealousy is such a nasty feeling, I totally get it.
Luckily, I’m not like that myself—I always wish the best for everyone.
I think you shouldn’t let it get to you too much and just enjoy being happy with your pregnancy.
I understand she’s having a hard time because she probably really wants to have a baby herself.
You could bring it up with her, but don’t expect too much from it.
Good luck!!

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  1. kuki88 #2

    Yeah, that's tough. I think she's also jealous of your other friends, not just you. But she feels comfortable enough with you to acknowledge her feelings.

    I'll just give it some time. If she gets pregnant, she'll probably be really happy for you. Nobody wants to feel jealous like that, but sometimes there's nothing you can do.

    Of course, you're allowed to find it annoying that it's not working out yet, but also sad that she can't be as happy about your pregnancy because of it.
  2. Anonymous #3

    You can definitely let your sister-in-law know how this affects you and how you feel about it. But if I understand correctly, it’s not easy for you to get pregnant? Because you also mentioned that after trying for a long time, you finally got pregnant at the end of 2014. So maybe you’ve been trying since early 2014?? In that case, your sister-in-law shouldn’t be nagging about her couple of months. I don’t mean it quite as harshly as I’m writing it now, but she’s really only just started. A few months is really nothing; the average is a year. And of course, if you want a baby, you’d rather be pregnant yesterday than tomorrow—that’s just how it is. But I do understand that you feel terrible about this. You’ve been trying for years and you’ve also experienced a sad miscarriage. Your sister-in-law should be jumping for joy for you, as if... at least that’s what I think. But it’s always hard to judge someone else’s feelings. Try talking to her; you’re family, and family is important. It’s also weird that she can be happy for her friends but not for you I don’t quite get that. Enjoy your pregnancy, girl, regardless of everything going on around you. Before you know it, you’ll have given birth. Even though it feels far away right now. And your pregnancy is so special. Don’t let anyone take away that feeling of happiness. Soon you’ll start feeling your little one move, and then it’ll be absolutely amazing
  3. Debje84 #4

    Super thanks for your replies, I really appreciated them! My husband thinks I shouldn't say anything to her about it (I think he feels I'm overreacting or that it's just the hormones).

    He says he thinks she's happy for us, but I feel like we shouldn't just assume that—we should also be able to see it!!

    And I don't want to have to hold myself back every time I'm at her place, because I'm sooooo happy!!!

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